How I will work with you
When we work together I will:
- listen deeply with kindness and compassion to your pain and suffering
- truly respect and value your uniqueness
- offer an empathetic human-to-human connection with you
My aim is that we can collaboratively participate in a reflective dialogue. Together we will discover and co-create new perspectives, new meaning, new possibilities, and new choices to enable you to deal better with the predicaments of your situation.
I have experience of helping people work through many issues, including:
- panic attacks
- acute stress
- relationship difficulties
- loss and bereavement
- obsessive thoughts and behaviours
- outbursts of anger
- feelings of alienation, isolation and marginalization
- bullying at work
- lack of confidence/self esteem
- expatriate adjustment issues/cultural issues
- spiritual issues
- personal growth
After an initial assessment session, where both you (singly or as a couple for couple therapy) and I will meet to decide if we are willing to work together, further sessions are scheduled. We will agree a dedicated day and time for your sessions. Sessions are 50 minutes long and held weekly (unless we agree the need for more frequent sessions). Depending on your needs, therapy may last for just a few sessions or it may continue for a longer period. We will regularly review your progress.
Please note: a week’s notice is required if you wish to change or cancel your session. Payment can be made at the end of each session or made in advance
My main practice is in Guildford, approximately ten minutes walking distance from Guildford railway station. I can also see clients in my London practice near Regent’s Park Inner Circle, a ten minute walk from Baker Street Tube station.
My therapeutic approach draws from Existential Therapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Contemporary Psychodynamic Psychotherapy and the contemplative practice of Mindfulness. For me, an embodied integration of these different approaches allows for a seamless flexibility and adaptability according to the individual needs of each client.
Existential therapy is based on the belief that anxiety, suffering, change, impermanence, uncertainty and death are inherent to the human condition. We are born unable to choose family, society, culture or environment. We know that we will die. Within this context we choose how we live. Existential therapy is essentially an enquiry of the human condition: despite the inevitable pain and suffering of the human condition is there the possibility of leading a meaningful and fulfilling life? It is my hope that during the process of therapy we will uncover your deepest inner meaning and purpose in life (if that is also what you wish for yourself), so you may discover the resources and possibilities available to you, and feel empowered to lead a more fulfilling and meaningful life.
Within the therapeutic context, Mindfulness is a non-religious practice. It cultivates an attitude of bringing awareness of arising inner thoughts, feelings, emotions and body sensations in the present moment with acceptance and compassion. It will help you understand the connection between body and mind, presenting ways of reducing stress, an ability to step out of habitual reactive patterns of behaviour, and recognition of being part of something larger than the individual self. Mindfulness practice can be transformational and can help in the way in which you begin to relate to yourself and others – and indeed transform how you experience and interact with the world around you.
I offer Mindfulness practice within therapy sessions where appropriate and where the client opts for it. Many have found this approach particularly helpful while dealing with depression, anger management, inter-personal relationships and obsessive thinking.
Mindfulness and CBT
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) works on the basis that the way we think affects our feelings, emotions and behaviour: if these patterns of thinking can be recognised and altered, our feelings, emotions and behaviour can also alter. A subsequent development of CBT utilising Mindfulness – known as ‘third wave’ CBT – shifts the emphasis from ‘getting rid’ of negative thinking patterns to ‘being with’ experience, however negative. And with the introduction of Mindfulness, ‘third wave’ CBT and Existential therapy have become more closely aligned in their emphasis on being with experience.
Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT), one such ‘third wave’ CBT, was developed for use in a group setting for the prevention of relapse of depression and has been proven to be highly successful in the treatment of recurrent depression.
Contemporary Psychodynamic Psychotherapy
Contemporary Psychodynamic Psychotherapy recognises that our ways of relating with others is shaped by our experiences with significant others present in our early environment. We often repeat old patterns of relationships in later life. Recognition that these early relational patterns influence our interpretations in the present offers the opportunity to change dysfunctional ways of relating, and facilitate improved interpersonal relationships and relationship difficulties.